Small Town, Big Life

Just Do It June 5, 2009

Filed under: advice — handwritten @ 1:33 pm

There comes a time in your life when you have to make a decision; a decision that will change the course of your life. We all come to these points every now and again. Sometimes the decisions are easy even though they are so life-changing. And sometimes, the decisions are hard, unbearably hard, even though you know that decision is for the best. It’s not often you find yourself in these kinds of situations. But, when you do come across them you realize how strong or how weak you can be.

What's your decision?

What's your decision?

I’ve always considered myself a bit of an ambitious type. But, sometimes my ambition and determination is outweighed by my fear. Talk about dissonance! One half of your brain is telling you to suck it up and telling you that no one can beat you, while the other side is telling you there’s no way you can do what you’re thinking about doing. And then, you reach down, deep inside and find that little nugget of gumption that’s been hidding behind your knee cap somewhere, and you do what you thought about doing. In that moment, you know you’ve done the right thing. You know you’ve made a difference in your life. You know you’ve changed your course.

And the thing that strikes me during times like these, is that the fear slowly disappears and you regain who you once were. Nothing can stop you – not even yourself. So, don’t be afraid. Don’t be scared. As Nike put it a long time ago, just do it. You’ll be better than having not.


The Education of Me sans Cinderella January 29, 2009

Filed under: advice,happiness,life,perfect — handwritten @ 10:38 pm
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The words often flow easily from my fingers to my keyboard, but today I’m having a hard time figuring out what I want to say. One great thing I can share is that I’ve got a new guy in my life. It’s really fantastic to experience the simple pleasures of understanding another person the way I feel I’m beginning to understand him. The relationship is still in its infancy, but like a child, relationships arern’t made to become instantly mature with the first bite of nurishment.

Not that I’m greatly experienced in this area, but I do know from observation of great couples in my life, that you can’t expect a relationship to be without its bumps and dips, highs and mountains. From what I’ve learned from people with many more years experience in this area, people with happy and fufilled relationships, is that relationships are work. Anyone that tells you they aren’t has either not been in a relationship, or is lying to your face. 

cinderella-3Growing up, as a young girl, I was emmersed in the fairytales of Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty, Snow White and her seven dwarfs. I inadvertantly was taught to believe that I would be whisked away by a perfect Prince Charming and carry on with a perfectly wonderful life. The one fault about Cinderella and the like, is that Disney never shows you life after the whisking.  It’s not always easy. It’s not always exciting. Even during the whisking, things can get sticky, complicated and confusing. The idea of perfection is hard to outgrow, and many of us (girls) never do.

Outgrowing this notion of perfection is hard for me. True to my nature, I want things to be perfect. I want things to go the way I expect them to go, and when they don’t I am the one that is disappointed. This mindset is not a great thing for living in the imperfect world of human relationships, but over some several years now, I’ve learned that perfection is not what we should strive for in our dealings with others. What we should strive for is understanding, appreciation and respect.

If you can continually live within these three mantras, I fully believe that you can survive anything that may cause upset within a relationship. Maybe I’m insanely naive, but I’m going to keep trying it out and maybe, just maybe I’m right.


Giving it all and then some. January 5, 2007

Filed under: advice,brother,giving,working,Writing — handwritten @ 11:56 pm

I started the new year with grandiose resolutions – writing on this blog everyday, exercising everyday, eating healthier, being more thoughtful, being more creative.  I’ve accomplished most of those things but you can tell from my posts that I’ve put off the “writing on this blog everyday” thing. I had intentions to do so but something my brother said to me the other day made me realize that everything doesn’t have to be perfect.

After complaining that I was upset with myself because I didn’t feel I was putting 100% into everything I’m doing – working, writing, exercising, creativeness – he told me this: “You only have 100% to put into things. If you put 100% into writing you can’t put even 10% into anything else because you don’t have it to give. You have to put what you got into what you’re doing at the time and hope everything else floats along until you have something to give to them.”

God Bless that Boy.